This is the story of a boy who loved to fly.
Once upon a time, there was a boy. He had big eyes, and a big smile, shy, but very sweet. The smile could often be hesitant, but once it came out, it lit up his face like the moon.
As a small child, the boy saw a lot and said little. His eyes were watchful, thoughtful, and you always wondered just what was going on in that little head of his.
The boy was very kind, tender-hearted. He loved animals so much that he stopped eating meat before he was 10 years old. And, as he grew older, if you tried to tempt him with animal protein, he’d just wave you away with that big smile of his.
As the boy grew older, it was clear that this was no ordinary boy. He started yoga at an early age, becoming an experienced practitioner and then teacher. He had the gift of athleticism, becoming an ace golfer who almost turned pro. He was brilliant, earning graduate and doctoral degrees from Johns Hopkins and Brown.
His childhood quietude grew with him, but he also found his voice and a gift for rhetoric. He was tall – very tall! – and good looking – very good looking! And that smile. What a smile.
As the boy grew up, his life straddled two worlds; those of his father, and of his mother, who lived in different cities, with different families, different lives.
And as he became a man, he started to look for his own place in the world. And he wanted to fly.
The boy’s gift for rhetoric, for lighting up a room, led him to put his skills to work in war-torn regions under the auspices of various United Nations agencies. He started excelling in his professional life and, along the way, acquired a beautiful young bride. But the boy still wanted to fly.
And then the boy found skydiving.
Once he did, there was no turning back. How the boy loved skydiving! And base jumping! This sport, that he fell in love with, with such a passion, took him to the furthest corners of the world… like Croatia (pic).
And with every jump, with every dive, he felt more alive, that this was what he was meant to be doing. He was a pro – that’s what you have to call anyone with more than 300 jumps under their belt.
The boy had found his wings. He had found his place in the world… soaring high above it.
On October 11, 2015, the boy took his little brother (not so little now, a grown man!) out for a jump. He went up for his own jump first. He was flying!
And then it all went horribly wrong. The jump went wrong. His landing went wrong.
And the boy died.
The boy was my baby cousin, Mehtab Mukerji Dere. He was just 33 years old. I hadn’t seen him in a long time, but I loved him and was very proud of him.
Please keep Mehtab and his immediate family – especially his father (my uncle) and his mother – in your thoughts and, if you pray, prayers. They need them.
Fly forever, Mehtab.
Shonali, My husband and I went to school with Mehtab at the American University of Rome. We both had tremendous respect for him. He was a caring and all around wonderful person who always took the higher road. We are greatly saddened by this news. Our deepest condolences to his wife and family.
Thank you so much, Jessica.
We went to the same University.
We were influenced by the same professors.
We had many similar passions – studding International Relations and Security, Philosophy, Yoga , loving animals (especially our dogs) and finding ultimate soulmates in our spouses were just a few of many …
He was much more graceful than me in expression those passions so eloquently with calm and healthy detachment – my passion on the other hand was raw, often overly emotional , righteous and reactive – and, as we know, being emotional is not something that is very welcomed in the world of politics and in the world of academia … I often felt guilty about my passionate and emotional pursue for integrity in the (often overly patriarchal ) worlds of academia and politics – but Mehtab, he made me feel accepted and he made me feel appertained exactly for the ways I am.
We had long email correspondence during our Master studies and our PhD studies … we exchanged our views and reasons for leaving Academic world and all the whys it did not succeed to make us feel satisfied and fulfilled …. He helped me make a decision to leave my PhD studies and bureaucratic world of politics in Brussels and go for something more real and more tangible whatever that may be …
Yes, Mehtab had the way to strengthen your wings! To Free You to be exactly who and how you are … Not many people has that unique ability to be so compassionate and graceful in their deeply embodied wisdom… but he had all that and more …
most likely because his heart was so big and so gentle – his own wings were very strong …
I will not say Rest In Peace – because he would hate to rest (even if it was in peace) , so I ll say :
May You Fly Forever, my Dear Friend …
We will Feel You AllWays …
Tatjana and Nenad
What an amazing tribute, Tatjana. Thank you so much. God bless.
Hi Shonali. I skydived this week for the first time at Diani Skydiving Centre where Mehtab was a regular skydiver. The team there has put up a board with his memories on it and as I was looking through that, I already felt a connecting with Mehtab. His face showed all the expressions that you describe above and I felt the loss without even knowing him.
Mehul Bhatt
Thank you so much for sharing this, Mehul.
I am shocked to learn only today of the tragic accident which led to the death of Mehtab Dere, who had been one of the most outstanding students I taught at the American University of Rome. I remember how proud his family members at his AUR graduation. As one of his professors I wrote recommendations for him to enter Johns Hopkins SAIS (and visited him at the Bologna campus) and for his PhD program at Brown. Having moved back to the Washington area while he was studying here, we had lunch on a few occasions. We also talked long and hard before he decided to leave Brown temporarily to take a job with the UN in Afghanistan. He seemed convinced of the importance of combining the cerebral life with the life of solving problems. I considered him a young man of remarkable promise who I expected to excel at whatever he ultimately chose to do. Considering what he might have done, his death is a great loss not only to family and friends, but to the world.
I could relate many stories, but one seems most appropriate. I wrote this in 2007 and used it in one of his grad school recommendations. A group of American Catholic seminarians stopped by AUR
about ten days back to discuss the significance of the recent statement by Pope
Benedict XIV in Germany about Islam.After the seminarians had explained the Pope’s perspective and the
importance of faith, they asked each of the participants for any final
thoughts.Mehtab thanked them, but noted
that he had always found common grounds for dialogue easier with secular people
from any faith than with committed adherents of one faith and wondered how the
world might ever be a better place if they (and the Pope) convinced their
followers that the return to traditional Catholic doctrine and values offered
the best hope for the survival of Western civilization.Needless to say, Mehtab had voiced the final
word for the session.
Parker W. Borg (American diplomat-retired)
Prof. Borg, thank you so SO much for sharing this! I apologize for not replying earlier, something’s up with my commenting system, so I only just saw this. This is such a special tribute… thank you so much.
Methab was a student at The American University of Rome from 2003 to 2007. He was one of our best students, and came back several times after graduation to lecture on International Relations.
I remember him well, he was so bright, so kind, so unassuming, and we all knew he would have made it big in life. So, so sorry about his premature, tragic passing.
Dear Shonali, is there any way you could put us in touch with his immediate family? we would like to send our condolences. Thanks.
Maurizia, I’m SO sorry to reply so late! Something’s up with my comment system, and I only just saw this. Yes, of course I’d be happy to put you in touch. Can you shoot me a note at sburke (a) shonaliburke (dot) com, please?
I knew mehtab in south sudan. The news comes as a shock to me as I saw him just weeks ago. Keeping him and his family in my thoughts and prayers. May god give you the strength and the patience to get through these difficult times.
This is so kind of you, thank you.
Shonali Hi Shonali. I will be in Delhi on November 4. Is there a chance I could meet Mehtab’s family? How shall I get in touch with them? My email is sprakhar21@gmail.com
Prakhar, I’m so sorry I didn’t respond earlier, something’s up with my commenting system, so I just saw this. I’m guessing you’re no longer in Delhi, but I will email you anyway. Thank you again.
@Prakhar Thank you so much for stopping by, Prakkar
arjunsandhu Arjun thanks so much for your comment. These days, one really can say, “Thank heaven for Facebook,” no?
Btw – it sounds like you met the Dere side of his family; Mehtab’s birth father is Anil Mukerji, who is my uncle (and referenced above). My uncle’s younger son was also at the funeral – not sure if you met him. But if you are in Delhi, I’m sure he would be delighted to be in touch with you, as a connection to his much-loved departed elder brother.
Thanks very much again for your comment, I appreciate it very much.
kathikruse It’s so kind of you to stop by, Kathi. Thank you.
So, so sorry for your loss, Shonali. He sounds like an amazing dude. May he rest in peace.
Shonali, thank you for this post. Mehtab and I were school mates and I remember him as one of the most well behaved and intelligent guys with a smile on his face. After school we weren’t in touch much except for on Facebook. Still, since we was doing so well, I used to visit his profile and be inspired with the kind of stuff he was doing in his life. His experiences in Sudan, working for the UN and then his sky diving really made me admire him. The news of this accident came as a big shock and has really saddened me. Attending the prayer ceremony yesterday helped me know Mehtab a bit more. I met his parents, brother and wife and my heart goes out for them. My prayers are for the family and although no words of consolation are ever enough, I hope God gives them strength to deal with this big loss. Arjun Sandhu.
I am extremely saddened to hear this. I met Mehtab in 2010 through a common friend in Afghanistan. We became good friends and remained in touch. We met over several meals and discussed the politics of Afghanistan. Mehtab was an exceptional human being, admirable in countless ways – polite, kind, brilliant, idealistic. I don’t know how I will reconcile with this loss. I wish his wife and family my deepest condolences.
I am extremely saddened to hear this. Mehtab was a friend to me. We met in Afghanistan in 2010 and remained in touch. I still cannot reconcile with this news.